The period of early motherhood is a time of transition and often so huge changes that finding yourself in them seems to be more than enough. The need for immediate response to the needs of a newborn or small baby, fatigue, sleeplessness, a total change in lifestyle can cause a series of emotions that the young mother did not expect at all, such as irritation, dislike of a child, and even aggression or hostility.
Category Pregnancy / Childbirth
Four years of intense efforts were not crowned with two dashes on the pregnancy test. There was no nausea, no strange whims. There was no sign that I would be a mother. I was bothered by unwanted pains that fiercely spread in my lower abdomen, and also broke my back.
You are nine months pregnant. It's theoretically enough to prepare for what awaits after delivery. In practice, the list of things that surprises after the birth of a child is very long: because something was not thought of, something imagined differently, to which there was no answer on popular websites for parents, or in the colorful, often showing an idealized image of motherhood and fatherhood in the press.
I am sitting on a park bench and I see a nicely dressed couple with a beautiful pram, which probably cost a fortune, beautiful smiles and happiness written on the face. I look at myself and see a teenager who will soon have to get involved in the world of parents walking and staring at the face of a sleeping baby.
What is umbilical for? After all, this is such an impractical custom. On the one hand, we have a sore woman full of internal fears. On the other hand, a man who, taking part in a family delivery, looking at the action of a few hours and the effort of his partner, only dreams of a quick bath and hugging the pillow.
From the dawn of time, women supported each other during childbirth. More experienced ones not only upheld future mothers, but also made sure that the birth of a new member of the community went without complications. Midwives, because of them, have come a long way before becoming recognized representatives of one of the medical professions.
Our relationship had no chance of survival. Our friends and ourselves were convinced of this. And no wonder - we were only connected by differences: He was a programmer, I - an actress, He likes blondes with long hair, I had short and auburn hair at the time, I - fond of tall blondes, He - short, "at the bone" with slightly thinning hair.
Breastfeeding women are not doomed to the protection against conception that exclusive breastfeeding on demand gives them during the first six months of a child's life. Contraception after birth is available in many forms, allowing you to have sex without fear and enjoying it. The only problem in this beautiful period, which is lactation, is reduced libido, which often significantly reduces the need for systematic and continuous use of contraceptives.
Congratulations!!!! You already have the expected toddler next to you. You've eaten all your pregnancy as prescribed for pregnant women and now you dream of reaching for everything that was forbidden. Or maybe you are in the group of those mothers who have gained too much during pregnancy and now they do not think about anything other than a new super diet, thanks to which they will quickly get rid of excess.
You know my attitude towards pregnancy, to a state that I never glorified, to which I did not attribute any metaphysical properties. Three broken teeth, red welts on my stomach, which luckily took on a pearly shade, renewing lower back pain, are my worst souvenirs, reminding me of that period.
It's no secret that the water content in the human body oscillates around 60%. Its specific value depends on the age and body fat content. The highest percentage is recorded in newborns in whom water constitutes about 75-80% of body weight. The percentage of water is higher in lean people (around 70% body weight) than in obese people (around 55% body weight).
The moment when a mother embraces her newborn baby for the first time is probably the most moving moment in the delivery room. The most important need for a newborn baby and woman right after delivery is close and continuous skin-to-skin contact. It is of great importance for the baby (provides warmth, security and food), as well as for a mother who, exhausted by giving birth, wants to hug her baby.
In ancient times, women giving birth were condemned to a painful delivery, what is more, birth pain was treated as a punishment and a burden on women for Ewa's sins. This conviction was so strong that those assisting with childbirths and trying to help mothers were usually accused of witchcraft and ended up at the stake.
Shelves in bookstores bend under the weight of guides for future parents. There is a lot to choose from. Theoretically, everyone can find something for themselves. As long as he is aware of how many possibilities he has and has the right amount of time and determination to become familiar with the proposals of individual publishing houses.
It is said that a second pregnancy requires much more courage than the first. Of course, assuming it is planned and not a coincidence. Mainly because women who decide on it are aware of the consequences behind it. They still remember the sleepless nights and the degree of commitment that a small child requires.
Although many women scream during childbirth, the topic of "screaming, humming, moaning or purring" is still rarely addressed. For many young people I devote myself to emotions, listening to my own needs, is perceived as a weakness. Women giving birth are afraid of the environment reaction, which often unnecessarily prolongs delivery and increases pain.
According to statistics, every second pregnancy in Poland is at risk of pregnancy, or high risk pregnancy. With this in mind, the stingy comments that pregnancy is not a disease, suggesting that a pregnant woman does not require special treatment, are even more absurd and out of place. Because regardless of whether pregnancy is physiological or is at higher risk, 9 months of waiting for a child is a time when you need to slow down and pay special attention to your lifestyle.
The biggest dilemma of the modern world is the parenting paradox, and especially the combination of childbirth time and the period of greatest professional development. The average age when the first children in the family are born is about 28 years, which is the period when as thirty-year-olds we have the chance of the greatest development: we are left with enthusiasm, and at the same time the experience gained so far speaks in our favor.
A pregnant woman should drink a lot. Not because too little fluid in the diet gives you similar symptoms to hunger and forcing you to snack, but mainly because water is necessary for the proper development of pregnancy. However, it is not an art to pour accidental liquids, it is important to choose them properly. The best highly mineralized water Although many water producers try to convince future mothers that spring water is best for them and their children, unfortunately they cannot be believed.
Little is said about pregnancy cytomegalovirus. Expectant mothers are usually not informed about the negative impact of this disease on the fetus and about the effects of its development. It is also not widely known how cytomegaly goes, what symptoms it gives, and how infection can be avoided. However, it is worth having at least basic knowledge in this area.
We live in a world where eternal youth is propagated. By different methods. Pharmacologically, surgically, and even during sessions at psychotherapists. We experience the first, second and subsequent youth. We keep taking our years away, looking with surprise or total ignorance at those who are getting older with dignity.